Holiday Happenings

Here's our millions of december pictures

Playtime with Julia's buddy Jack. She may get punched in the face or body slammed while playing with him, but she doesn't let that deter her love for him! 

Julia's buddies Gus, Walter and Victor. They are waiting for the Santa Ship to dock at Lopez.

there it is! Santa is on board, as well as pirates and clowns. 

in an ultimate display of bizarre holiday blending, the kids are plied with balloon pirate swords from the clowns and encouraged to duke it out with each other and the pirates while they wait to talk to Santa. candy canes are liberally dispensed in case there's not enough excitement already. 

The wait for Santa is long. epically long, but Julia is determined to see him. She wants to tell him to please bring her the blue doll. (thankfully I bought her the doll prior to knowing that she'd be fixated on asking for this doll all month!) then she got a present of a wooden elephant and dog puppet and bag of candy! thanks Lions Club!

meanwhile, I'm getting bigger all the time! 5 months along! 

Julia's godmomma Bekah comes to visit. Julia is very pleased. 

we get snow!!!! a whole two inches, but just enough to cancel school on the last day before vacation. We make a snowman as soon as it was light enough to see outside and a good thing we did because snow soon turned to rain and by afternoon it was pretty much gone. 

we set up our tree, made epic amounts of Christmas cookies and I tried to get Julia to make presents for others, though she struggled with wanting to keep everything she made or to only bestow gifts on my brother Olaf. 

We left the island for Christmas, easier said than done, for the day we chose to leave, a ferry broke and it took us a good 10 hours to actually get off the island. It was a supremely frustrating day for me, but I guess it's a good thing that it has taken us 4 months to have a issue with the ferry like this.
For the first part of Christmas, we went to Grandpa Dave's. He whipped up a swing in a matter of minutes to satisfy Julia's urgent desires to swing (like the "wonder pets" do)

it was hard for Julia to wait for morning to open presents, and harder still to get to sleep. She took a nap over the Christmas eve feast, which was attended by Dave's Dad's family and then just as she was getting to bed for real, Auntie Anna arrived and sleep went out the door for the next 4 hours. Poor Anna had to share a bed with Julia and got to reassure her every 15 minutes that it was not yet morning. In the actual morning, Dave let out a loud HO HO HO from our room and Julia just gasped. 

Presents were finally opened! Julia had left Santa a cookie trail from the fireplace in the living room to the Christmas tree in the den and Santa had left her a note! 

then we got dressed and ate breakfast and left for Grandma Gini's house where more presents were opened, more feasting was had and an afternoon of playing with more relatives unfolded. We had to leave by mid afternoon to go catch the ferry back, and good thing we did because my family arrived early and caught the same ferry we did!  

Grandma Gini's family

Dinosaurs!

Julia finally had her "Ofo" here and we managed to convince the youngers to hold off till morning for Christmas #3. My family stayed in various combinations for the majority of a week, and much feasting was had, interspersed with:

lessons in pie making

toy assembly 

touring the lovelier parts of Lopez 

loving on the aunties and uncles

jumping on the new (old) trampoline!

dancing to "princess music" 

tea parties

lord of the rings monopoly 

more pie baking

and finally, the departure of the majority of my family, one more new year's eve hurrah with Dave's brother and niece, and an empty house for a day, then the surprise visit of another of my brothers!

so a little more family fun was had, then we were left with the echoes of Christmas past, and the pine needles of the present. Those were eventually cleaned up and we got through the too quiet days until life started up again. Preschool, ballet, school, meetings, are all back and I'm sorry the holidays are done, but glad for the routine to be back. 

Julia's had a harder transition out of the holiday mode, with tantrums and mood swings occurring with vexing regularity. What to blame though, withdrawing from the sugar consumed? mourning the loss of attention from so many? subconscious knowledge of huge changes ahead this spring? simply the trials of being 3? whatever it is, I hope it passes soon. The rain has been frequent, and my moods frequently bleak to match. the cartoons have been dispensed too liberally while I sit, for long hours medicating with books, longing for spring, trying to be in the present, soaking up every moment of solitude and knowing with fear and gladness that it will soon be lost for a good long while. 

light and darkness

We've had a month of extremes. Warm and cold. Light and darkness. Joy and sorrow.  Our darkness and sorrow comes from the natural darkness of winter coupled with the death of my dad's younger brother Uncle Andy who learned of his leukemia this past year and passed away a few days ago. Death is rarely timely, and I feel deep sorrow for my Aunt Cindy and my cousins who have lost a father and husband. This also weighs on my mind as I appear to have escaped an early death by the bizarre circumstances that led to the discovery and removal of my cancer before it was advanced enough to seed itself elsewhere, the typical outcome in the hard-to-discover-early ovarian cancer. It's pretty much impossible for me to assign a responsibility for my living and Andy's (and the others I know who have passed this year) dying to anything other than it being a odd and cruel and wonderful and unpredictable world. These thoughts and many more have been circulating in my mind for days and weeks.
The light and joy and warmth have come from our moving from the condo to a house! I hadn't really appreciated how much I disliked living in the condo until we were settled in the new place. There's something hard to quantify about what makes a good space, but I know that it has a very very real impact on my personal happiness. Elements of importance: wood floors, a wood stove, big windows that look out on space, a kitchen that feels clean (when I've managed to get ALL the dishes rounded up and washed), enough storage space that clutter feels put away, my furniture and  belongings and art, which are not expensive but are mostly made and given by family and friends and of great sentimental value, plans for chickens soon and a pantry/freezer full of food (since a bare pantry puts me into a mild unsettled panic). It's also come from holidays celebrated and upcoming celebrations with family and friends, and the making of new friends and feeling more at home in general here on the island.

The last picture in the condo. The last week there was just awful, trying to pack every little thing except what we needed for 3, 2, 1 days and trying to keep Julia from unpacking and just sitting around waiting and waiting. We got to get started moving on tuesday, or I did anyway, as Dave worked. By Wednesday the condo was pretty well emptied and that night we left the island for thanksgiving. Friday morning we returned with yet another car load and got ready for Julia's preschool's big fundraiser bizarre which expected us to volunteer our time all that day. We did so, while also getting help moving from two of my sisters, and juggling running to and from the ferry to drop off sisters and pick up Julia and Grandma Gini, who had kept her since Thursday. By Friday, I was pretty thoroughly exhausted and had failed to take any photos of the week, but I could see that this was going to be a good house for us. Also, we got the condo carpets cleaned, and I got an ultrasound that told us that the baby is growing nicely! 

Julia and I have developed a strategy for the "momma I want ....." that happens every 6 seconds in a store. I take a picture on my phone and tell Julia to ask Santa if she can have it. She forgets about it 30 seconds later and my biggest hassle is deleting all the photos from my phone before they can remind her of what she wanted. Here she's holding a dragon statue. 

eating marshmallows and fudge on a stick at a holiday party!

Cutting our christmas tree! Julia was turning out to be pretty picky, rejecting all likely options as no good, so we pulled a coup, circling back and I over-enthused about the tree until she hopped on board.  

helping daddy tie it on the car

putting the feet up after some wood chopping

Our tree! It's a little wonky and definitely could have used some pruning a year ago, but free is free and I love it. Many of the ornaments I made over the past 5 years, and almost every one has a memory of christmasses gone past attached. Julia was an enthusiastic helper this year and is particularly fond of the ornament Olaf made and gave to us a few years back with his photo inside.  

these two photos are from her ballet class recital. It was pretty adorable and very small-town charming!

We've been cranking out the christmas cookies, getting some tins full and ready for gift giving. I figure I'll go big with lots of variety this year, as next year I'll be too busy chasing a crawling baby to get many made. 

Helping Daddy chop the wood. Daddy chops it, Julia hammers it, Mommy burns it. 

Here's some shots of the living room. I've been meaning to take some house shots for days, but somehow seconds after I get things tidied up, random stuff is all over again. 

 There's more of the house to show, but that part is definitely not clean enough for photos today. Along with being adorable and wonderful, Julia has developed an amazingly loud and shrill whine voice and an overly dramatic reaction to every "no" she hears. This mostly comes into play at home. Out and about she's sweet and well behaved, but here with me it is scream and whine and pout and nag all day. I'm not terribly patient with her about this and as a result use of time-outs has skyrocketed. Thankfully they have a dramatic effect on her. She cries for a minute and then is contrite and tells me she's ready to try again and we have a hug and a reasonable chat about how to behave when we want something or when the answer is no and all is good and 10 minutes later it's replayed from the beginning. I count my blessings that I have this tool and that it makes her contrite. I have no idea what parents do when their kids are seemingly immune to the correction. She's still too uncertain of the yard to want to play outside alone, so I've been trying to spend more time outdoors with her. This was pretty difficult right after thanksgiving as the temps plummeted here. Now they are mild again, but it's damp and I find that less enjoyable than good old dry cold winter. I'm hoping badly for some snow to fall this winter. I'm told that some years there's a few good snow falls and some years there's basically none.
One cute little Juliaism lately is that instead of "them" she says "deys" as in "I got deys in my hand" or "can you get deys for me" She didn't always say it like that, and I'm not sure where it came from, but it is pretty cute, so I don't correct her!
I've been working on the idea of giving presents with her, a rather difficult concept for her to embrace. She likes the idea in theory, but when she sees me wrapping something that appeals to her in any way, the thought that it isn't for her is pretty hard for her to take. Last week at preschool, while I was the parent helper, they made necklaces out of beads and then wrapped them to give as gifts. She decided hers was for "mom and Julia." At the end of class, her friend Jack decided that his necklace was a gift for Julia and gave it to her. She was pretty thrilled with this and we went home and made and wrapped a necklace for Jack. Thankfully when she gave it to him, he was thrilled and wore it all day. While this exchange was a success, she's still having a hard time with seeing me making presents that are not for her and having a hard time with the idea of making presents for others herself. I'm trying to talk about it a lot with her, but it doesn't seem to register much. She did ask if the baby would get presents and was happy when I said yes, I thought so. She suggested dividing the presents under the tree in half, to share with the baby. and to share the easter candy with the baby too. So I don't know if I should be worried about this or not!
The baby seems to be doing well, kicking lots but causing no trouble otherwise. I'm about 23 weeks along, making the baby roughly 11 inches long.

october in review

We are a lot more settled here since I last posted. Dave has had a good fall at work, getting along tremendously well with his co-administrators and generally impressed with the goings on at school. Julia has had a good fall at pre-school. She's gotten interested in writing her name, and does so with moderate success. I'm starting to make more friends and so am happier. I'm also done being super fatigued and nauseated with the pregnancy, so that makes me a million times happier. I'm 16 weeks along now, and can feel a few little flutters now and then. We've had several visitors this month, my sister Grace, our friend Carol Witte and Grandma Gini, and visitors are always enjoyed, so come see us! We are gearing up to move to another house over thanksgiving, so that is good and stressful all at once. Here's the month in photos:

a sunset on the beach near our house

bedtime books with Grandma Gini

playtime with her blocks. she's building a bed for her little baby doll. 

Julia started taking a ballet class for 3 year olds. She was apprehensive until she saw what she got to wear, then she was all about ballet class. 

she's on the far right, running around before class. I don't get to see what happens in class, as I sit out with the other parents, but I think Thea is a really good teacher. Julia occasionally instructs me now in how to hold my feet or spin. 

Julia and daddy, getting a motor boat ride

Julia and her buddy Walter

one day we went to a neighboring island and happened upon a children's fair with donkey rides.  

Julia was pleased. 

swinging with daddy.

busy playing with her dinosaur. She's been asking to go to a dinosaur museum to see dinosaur bones! 

busy playing at pre-school.  

on a field trip to an apple orchard

picking apples

grinding apples

pressing apples

pumpkins, of course

and more pumpkins. 

carving with Daddy at a school fundraiser event

then getting to light the pumpkins and listen to ghost stories. Julia kept interrupting with suggestions about dragons. 

at a pre-halloween trunk-or-treat with Walter 

at Shark Reef with Carol Witte. We didn't see any sharks, but it was pretty. 

Halloween proper, with her buddy Jack who invited us to trick or treat with him.  

at the first house of the night, they each got TWO king sized candy bars!!!

After trick or treating, there was a halloween party at the church next to us. Julia's favorite activity was crawling into a room waist deep in balloons and glow sticks and crawling around trying to find candy scattered about. She was completely terrified of anyone in a mask. We thought we'd have lots of trick or treaters, but really had very few. Consequently we have a basket of candy left about the size of Julia.